In almost every
phase of our lives, at home, at school, and at work, we find ourselves under
the rewards and criticism of external judgment. This is judgement for ourselves
and of others.
Such judgments are
part of our lives, seeing both the contrast, from birth to when we grow older.
I believe a certain amounts of social intelligence is necessary.
'That's good!"
"Your
wrong!"
"What a
failure you are!"
Like most, I find
myself all too often making such judgments and evaluation of others. However,
in my experience, they do not make for my own personal growth. Hence, I do not
believe these attitudes and judgments are helping me to create healthy
relationships.
Curiously enough, a
positive view in the long run can be as threatening is as a negative view of
others
"You look
amazing!"
"Congratulations,
job well done!"
"Wow, what an
amazing outcome, you surely are lucky!"
Judgments good or bad affect us
Since to know someone well, sometime our judgments of being kind can easily imply you also have the right to tell them they are bad.
Judgments good or bad affect us
Since to know someone well, sometime our judgments of being kind can easily imply you also have the right to tell them they are bad.
We cannot see in
another which is not within ourselves. For example, if you saw someone who was
arrogant, how would you know this unless you have experienced it yourself.
Similarly, the opposite, the good side, when we see the beauty in others. We
are always seeing a projection of who we are onto others.
So, I have come to
the conclusion and feel that the more I keep a relationship free of judgement
and evaluation, the more I permit myself to reach a point where others will
recognize the focus of evaluation, the center of responsibility, lies within
ourselves. It always come from ourselves, where else we would know the difference.
The meaning and
value of our experiences is, lastly, something which is up to each and everyone
of us to see the truth within ourselves. No amount of external judgments can
alter this.
Remember: we cannot
see in other what does not lay within.
Taking another path
So, a I am working towards building relationships to which I am not, to,y own feelings, of see to understand my evaluations of other person. This I believe can set myself and others free to be a self-responsible, self-aware, and self- person.
Taking another path
So, a I am working towards building relationships to which I am not, to,y own feelings, of see to understand my evaluations of other person. This I believe can set myself and others free to be a self-responsible, self-aware, and self- person.
Free from
evaluation
If in my working
with others, I am dealing with them as an ignorant, arrogant, immature
attitude, what can be in this relationship.
I accept others as
a process of becoming who I really am, endeavoring to see and make real
everyone's potential.
Be grateful. accept
and meet the other person who is also in the process of becoming. If not, will
you be bound by your judgments.
Become an
integrated person who in that moment knows so you both can have a deeply and
dependable experience.
Reeny coaches
individuals who are stuck, afraid, unsure, in transition, struggling with
self-doubt, frustration, falling back to old patterns
As a Soul Purpose
Coach, she uses techniques to awaken your heart and open your intuitive powers
guiding individuals to embrace a soul aligned path to life that will bring
greater joy, freedom, success, and inner peace.
Her blogs, includes
inspirational articles are written for those who are seeking a new view to
looking at life.
