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Why Fear Prevents Us From Feeling The Wonderment Of The Present Moment

How To Disassociate From Fear

Consider the last time you experienced a fearful thought or emotion? Think about the situation that caused you to experience this. Now, how did you feel twenty-four hours following the event? Were you still experiencing the emotions or did your attention move to something else? Fear is debilitating and can wreak havoc in our lives if we are unaware. In this period of uncertainty, fear is projected into our lives without our permission. The news and social media is filled with catastrophic events worldwide. Fear is sold to us on the premise we will tune in to the media networks that promote it and remain in a hypervigilant state. But as you know, this comes at a cost to our sanity and long-term health. Assuredly, we can find many situations to be concerned about in the world, yet when we buy into the narrative fear promotes, it steals away the richness of the present moment.

It is impossible to experience the aliveness of the present when we are caught in fearful thoughts. We are projected into the future and experience a cocktail of chemical reactions that cause stress to the body. However, we can learn to turn down the volume on fear by shifting our awareness to what is happening within us. By this I mean, finding practices that help us disassociate from fear. For example, I enjoy swimming and other forms of exercise. When I swim laps at my local pool, I don't experience fearful thoughts and even in the ensuing hours, I am still on a high. This is also true of other hobbies such as being outdoors, reading and socialising with friends. I try to tune in to selective news reports to remain informed of current events within my region and globally. The internet is a wonderful medium that has brought freedom to our lives but limited us in the way we interact with it. Many people develop addictions to surfing the internet or scrolling through their phones. How about you? How do you interact with social media and the news? How do you respond to bad news? Do you feel sad or depressed? This is one effect of news addiction, it keeps us hooked like poker machines with their flashing lights and sounds. But we have a choice and can limit our exposure.

The Future Will Take Care Of Itself

Fear steals away the wonderment of the present moment and offers little in return other than stress and disappointment. It is not a responsible giver but takes away our joy and well-being. If we subscribe to the narrative it promotes, we have no choice but to buy in to its way of life. When we do, we are at its mercy because it has sold us a fictitious way of life based on one aspect of reality. Life is not about fear and disasters because what we look for, we are certain to find. If we go looking for negativity and disappointment, we will find it standing on a street corner waving to get our attention. Though, if we look for joy, bliss and happiness we must intentionally cultivate them and give them space to flourish. As mentioned earlier, we ought to find activities or hobbies away from technology that invigorate us. Constantly browsing the internet and playing violent video games are not forms of joy and happiness. They are escapism and addictions and we mustn't convince ourselves we are having fun. Granted, if you are sixteen years old and wasting the afternoon after school before your homework that is a different story. Nevertheless, peruse activities that feed your soul and give you a sense of accomplishment and nurture feelings of love. Find something that contributes to your personal growth rather than stealing away time because you are bored.

Are you comfortable with the ideas expressed so far? Does it make sense that exposing yourself to fear diminishes your ability to enjoy the present moment since you are transfixed on what can go wrong? The future will take care of itself. There is nothing to do other than let go of disempowering thoughts and emotions, to enjoy the wonderment of the present moment. Considering this, give some thought to activities you could devote more attention to that nourishes your soul. What habits would you like to reduce or eliminate altogether? Is it screen time on your computer, TV or smart phone? If so, don't download an app to reduce your screen time but make the intention to do so and follow through with it. After all, fear will prevent us from feeling the aliveness of the present moment as long as we create a home for it to flourish. We must let go of its negative state so emotions like love, joy and happiness can fill the void.

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Growing Gratitude: A Valuable Life Skill

What would life look like if we experienced more gratitude? Imagine your satisfaction when someone expresses gratitude for your efforts; or your contentment when feeling happy about life, right in this moment. We can all have more of that because growing gratitude is a valuable life skill we can learn!

The simple attitude of gratitude is one of the most powerful creative energies we can work with. It transforms our consciousness because energy flows to whatever we focus on, and makes it grow.

Gratitude also increases happiness. When we express genuine appreciation for the goodness we already enjoy each day, we cultivate happiness in our lives.

Perhaps you have not yet lost the twenty pounds you want to, but you have learned to make better food choices. Or you have not yet found the love of your life, but you have been blessed with loving relatives and friends.

It's a simple yet powerful principle: You can develop more of what you desire in life by noticing what you DO have already and growing an attitude of gratitude for that. You have the power to create more of what you love by expressing genuine appreciation for the good things you already have.

Expressing gratitude is a learned skill. It is done not in a superficial or schmaltzy way, but through genuinely heartfelt, eyeball-to-eyeball or heart-to-heart connection. It involves appreciation delivered with real meaning rather than some perfunctory mumblings or syrupy platitudes.

Just think of all the meaningful things that you have already enjoyed today: the smell of coffee that got you going, a warm shower, soft towels, a selection of clean clothes in your closet, sunshine warming your face, tantalizing aromas all around, the ability to walk and talk... there's so much to be grateful for!

Once the habit of growing and showing attitude takes hold, you'll start noticing more and more of life's blessings around you. Gratitude expands our hearts to notice more of what we already have appreciation for.

Imagine how relationships would be enhanced if you used the same approach to express appreciation for the people in your life!

Take a few moments to consider the relationships you're grateful for. Reflect on the qualities you appreciate in each of your relatives and friends: the smile on a child's face, the hug of a loved one, the spontaneous playfulness of a friend... and even their individual ways of craziness! We can find something to be grateful for in every person or situation.

I had an eccentric great-aunt who had the knack for making keen observations about others at the most inappropriate times. I used to blush in embarrassment at her unflinching directness, yet when she was no longer able to attend family gatherings, her special brand of candor was sorely missed. Only then did I realize how her unique brand of eccentricity enriched our lives.

Perhaps there are a few people with varying degrees of eccentricity populating your life as well. They also have a role to fulfill -- even if it is to stretch your tolerance level, teach patience or give you an opportunity to forgive! And yes, they offer you an opportunity to grow more gratitude.

Expressing gratitude is a priceless gift we can offer ourselves and others. Now is a perfect time to express your gratitude to people who have touched your life. Let them know what you love about them and how it makes you feel. You'll add meaning to their lives while strengthening your relationships.

Growing gratitude is indeed a valuable life skill we can learn to enhance our quality of life.

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The key to transforming yourself -- Robert Greene at TEDxBrixton

The English Prime Challenge

English Prime looks and sounds just like the everyday English language we use with family, friends, colleagues, acquaintances, and strangers, with one major exception, the verb 'to be' and all its variants, i.e., is, was, am, will be, etc., are removed. By using English Prime, often referred to as E-Prime, one can communicate more clearly and realistically than otherwise. The verb 'to be' creates the illusion of absolute certainty and unequivocal truths. Sometimes, this is appropriate, such as the statement, the flower is planted in the pot, or when describing certain properties or qualities, such as the dog is hairy. Even then, the word 'hairy' can have many levels of meaning and as such is not terribly clear. When used in the context of identity, the word 'is' becomes very problematic. For example, the simple sentence 'John is a troublemaker' would appear to suggest that John makes trouble all the time everywhere. Moreover, it suggests that one's own perception of the situation should be taken as truth, which it is not. Another person may perceive John as a goof off, but not a troublemaker.

A more accurate and realistic statement about John's behavior might be something like, 'the way I see it, John appears to behave as a troublemaker when at school.' This conveys a point of view, in a given context, not an absolute universal truth; it presents an appearance of behaviors which are interpreted by the observer as being that of a troublemaker, in a particular setting; it does not imply equality between John the person and a specific set of behaviors, in a specific set of conditions. John may behave in a very helpful and compliant way with friends outside of school. John is very helpful would contradict John is a troublemaker. Which one true? Which one false? It depends on the observer, and on the context, the conditions under which those behaviors are being observed.

Let's take another simple example: The sky is blue. Although this may seem the common experience, and does describe a property or quality of the sky, one would agree that the sky exhibits many shades of blue, at different times of the day; at night one would say the sky is black. E-Prime would remove the 'is' and replace it with something like 'appears as.' The sky does only appear as blue at some times, for many people, but not all people, at all times. By stating the sky is blue, the presumption becomes that it appears as blue for all people at all times, which it does not.

English Prime arose in the mid 1960's out of General Semantics. Here is the main idea of General Semantics: 'people can only know what they observe and experience when they see, hear, touch, taste, smell, think, and feel, and furthermore, that what they observe and experience can affect how they observe and experience in the future. Because each person has different experiences throughout their lives, they interpret their experiences differently' (wikipedia.org). This way of understanding semantics (i.e., the science of meaning in language) aligns with modern quantum physics, in that the observer and the observed influence each other, that which we perceive becomes colored by the very act of perception itself. We don't really experience an object as much as we experience our interaction with an object. Just about everything we call reality exists as a point of view, a perspective.

Another example, simple in structure and yet potent in effect, 'I am depressed' becomes 'I feel depressed.' There is a huge difference between being depressed and feeling depressed. In the former, we are identified as depressed; in the latter, we are experiencing a feeling or state of mind. Or, better yet, 'I feel depressed when I make a mistake' adding a context, a condition to that state of mind. And, even better than that, 'I experience feelings I label as depressing when I make a mistake.' The statement 'I am depressed' has an unrealistic absolute-ness about it. Some proponents of E-Prime have stated that improper use of the verb 'to be' creates a kind of 'deity mode of speech' which allows 'even the most ignorant to transform their opinions magically into god-like pronouncements on the nature of things' (wikipedia.org). Our point of view, our perspective, the ways in which we as an individual interact with our world, may appear to us as 'our truth' but, in fact, falls far short of Truth. Individual truth does not exist. Individual perception, interpretation, point of view and meaning does exist. Truth is; everything else: appears as. So, when you find yourself saying something like so and so is a such and such, or that I am such and such. Stop. Consider how you might phrase that using E-Prime. Take into account this idea of personal perspective, point of view, context and conditions, not an absolute, eternal fact. Up your game. Consider applying English Prime to your written and spoken words. It will require some rethinking, and rewording, of common phrases. The benefits include improved clarity of thought, speech and communication. It even has benefits in the realms of mental health.

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The Psychology of Self-Transformation

Gaining Self-Confidence - How to Stop Thinking Like a Victim

When it comes to gaining your self-confidence it can be difficult to come by and easy to lose if not nurtured and worked on continually. Self-confidence is vital when it comes to feeling as if you are in charge of your of your life and with self-confidence, you will feel more like the victor rather than the victim in life.

The victim's mentality is the case where the individual does not take personal responsibility for their life and feels that the world is against them or that they need a lucky break to succeed in life. Whereas the self-confident individual understands that they are in charge and that if they are to achieve any goal in life they have the ability to work through whatever obstacles may stand in their way. And they learn to either find a way or make a way.

To avoid thinking like a victim, and to help you feel you are in control, rather than external forces, and avoid feeling overwhelmed when it comes to achieving your lifetime goals or taking on a project that seems insurmountable, begin by breaking down the steps that you need to take to become successful.

By breaking down your steps into smaller segments whether it is a daily or monthly goal, begin by working on one particular project at a time until it is completed then start another. By breaking down large projects or complicated ones, you begin to gain more self-confidence as it will grow with every successful completion and you begin to feel you have the upper hand in the situation rather than feeling like the victim, overwhelmed and defeated.

To avoid feeling like the victim in life and gaining more self-confidence with each passing day, you have to learn to adapt and expect the unexpected in life. Becoming self-organized and practicing good time management when it comes to completing projects or getting rid of unnecessary problems and time-wasting activities in your life will help you to learn to adapt and gain the self-confidence you need to be a victor in life.

Time wasting activities include staying away from negative thinking people who will try and tell you you cannot do something or that the system is rigged. People that buy into that philosophy end up living a life of victimhood and they love nothing more than to drag you down to their level.

That's not for you, by learning to think for yourself and staying clear of negative influences you allow yourself to build your confidence by allowing yourself through decisive action to prove that you can succeed and become more than you ever thought possible.

So when it comes to avoiding thinking like a victim in life, stay proactive, learn to take action on your dreams, take the personal initiative to find ways to become successful and in control of your life through a desire to become unstoppable and a champion.

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Feeling Irritated and Judgmental? How to Find Clarity and Compassion

This post is part 3 of a 3-part series on raising your vibration, so you can live with more energy, peace, health, love, joy, wisdom, and abundance-so you can be a powerful, positive, transforming presence in our world.

Step One is increasing your energetic charge, increasing the amount of energy you have. If you are tired and depleted, you have little energy to give and no energy to cultivate a higher frequency of being in this world. Step Two is to recognize and release the tensions which interfere with the smooth and joyful flow of this energy through your body, heart, and mind. In this article, we'll explore Step Three-elevating the quality or frequency of your energetic vibration.

Your Energetic Vibration Shapes Your Experience

Your overall energetic vibration is the sum total of where you are coming from at this moment-the thoughts, feelings, intentions, and actions you are engaged in right now. The frequency of your energetic vibration shapes how you see the world, how you see others, and how you see yourself and your possibilities at this moment. You'll notice I've added "at this moment" to this description. This is because your energetic frequency is variable-it shifts from moment to moment depending on what you focus on and how you relate to it.

For example, if you look through a lens of fear and judgment, you'll notice evidence to back up this point of view. You'll see the world as a threatening place to be and anything that is different from you as a threat to your point of view. As a result, you are likely to feel irritated and react defensively, combatively, and judgmentally. You're likely to focus on defending your own safety by sticking to who you know, what you know, and the comfort zone of known habitual behaviors. In a certain sense this feels safe-even if it leads to more fear, tension, and conflict.

In contrast, if you look through a lens of appreciation, gratitude, and trust, you'll notice evidence to back up this point of view. You'll see the world as an interplay of diverse possibilities guided by benevolent forces greater than your own. You're likely to welcome different perspectives, people, beings, and points of view as teachers who can widen your perspective and expand your consciousness. Instead of otherness being a threat, it's an invitation to heal from your own past pain that leads to defensiveness. It opens you to forgiveness and compassion.

While your energetic vibration is variable, you also have a baseline state-a vibratory frequency in which you tend to rest. This is your dominant energetic frequency, which is how you tend to look at life and to which you tend to return. In order to more significantly and permanently raise your vibration, you need to shift this baseline frequency-and this takes practice. Like anything you want to grow in life, you need to repeatedly inhabit your desired energetic frequency until it becomes your new normal-the state you tend to rest in and return to.

In my experience, there are two related practices which take you there:

1) Cultivating open, clear, spacious awareness

2) Inhabiting specific, higher, energetic frequencies

Let's explore what each of these means and how to practice them.

Open Clear Spacious Awareness

If you're feeling fearful, irritated, and judgmental, it's not likely you can just decide to feel trusting, compassionate, and loving. That would be like having a muddy stream and adding bright food coloring to it. You're just going to get a muddy version of whatever color you add. Before you add color, you must first clean and clear the stream.

First, it's important to recognize and acknowledge your current perspective. Notice what you are thinking, how this is making you feel and act, and the results of this way of being. Is this the way you want to live?

If not, you can decide to set aside your current perspective for a moment, so you can explore other possibilities. You can momentarily let go of how you think things are, so you can entertain alternatives. With this decision in place, it's time to clean and clear your stream.

Here's a simple practice. Take several moments to fully experience each step:

1. Sit comfortably upright with the soles of your feet on the ground and parallel with each other. Rest your hands cupped in your lap in a receptive posture. Commit to adopt a mindful attitude for this practice: paying attention, on purpose, in the present moment, non-judgmentally-like a curious observer.

2. Take a few, slow, deep breaths, imagining your whole body fills up when you inhale and your whole body empties out as you exhale.

3. Let go of your breathing and feel your body as a whole from the inside. See if it's possible to feel the entire space inside your skin. Allow a feeling of open, clear, spacious awareness to spread out through your whole body. Allow any thoughts, feelings, or sensations to dissolve in this open, clear, space. Allow this space to expand to include the space around you...

4. As continue to experience the open, clear space, listen to the silence underneath all sounds within this space... Then, feel the stillness underneath all movement within this space...

5. Within this open, clear space ask, "Who is aware of this space?" See if it's possible to become aware of the act of awareness itself. Become aware of Awareness.

Now, keep in mind that this is a practice. It is something you will get more skillful at the more you experiment with it. At first, you may have momentary glimpses of this experience. As you have this glimpse, see if you can sink deeper into this and become completely absorbed in it.

When you are ready to move to the second practice, first take a moment to mindfully notice how you feel. Do you feel even a little more relaxed, open, clear, and spacious than when you began?

Inhabiting Specific, Higher, Energetic Frequencies

Now that you've practiced cleaning and clearing your stream, it's time to inhabit a higher energetic frequency. I suggest any one of the following: appreciation, gratitude, trust, love, compassion, peace, light, or joy. Pick one you'd like to experience and explore now.

Here's the practice:

1. Return to the experience of open, clear, spacious awareness. If you need to refresh any of the steps above, you can do so.

2. Call to mind the higher energetic frequency you want to experience. Say to yourself, "I welcome ___ now."

3. Call to mind an image which represents this state of being to you. What's the first image that comes to mind when you think of your desired energetic frequency? Bring this image into your heart and allow it to rest here. Notice how this image makes you feel.

4. As you inhale, imagine you are breathing the feeling of this energetic frequency into your heart. As you exhale, imagine you are sending this energetic feeling outward into every cell of your body.

5. Let go of your breathing and soak in the sensation of this higher energetic frequency for as long as you want.

Notice how you feel...

As you engage in these two practices of "Open, Clear, Spacious Awareness" and "Inhabiting Higher Energetic Frequencies," you'll discover you can learn to choose where you are coming from. You can choose to raise your vibration and live from a higher energetic frequency.

I encourage you to use these two meditative practices daily. Perhaps you can incorporate them into your morning or bedtime routine? Soon you'll find yourself less and less gripped by fear, irritation, and judgment and more and more drawn to trust, compassion, and appreciation. You'll soon be living in a higher frequency vibration more and more of the time. As you do so, you'll contribute to the raising of consciousness of all beings and our whole planet.

Thank you for your practice!

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Jim Rohn - Habits To Build A Better You (Personal Development)

Release What You've Locked Away In Pandora's Box And Be Well Once Again!

It's time to release what you've locked away in Pandora's Box. It doesn't serve you! Stuck feelings create illness and disease!

In our lives, we may experience emotions that are just too painful to bear, so our first reaction is to just stuff them down thinking you'll deal with that later. Choosing not to feel your emotions and putting your feelings in the proverbial Pandora box will most certainly allow them to stagnate there and then burrow deeply in your physical body. Much like energy within the body, emotions are meant to be fluid and free-flowing, so as not to create illness or disease in your physical form.

There really are no good or bad emotions. There are just emotions. And they are there to teach you something that will help you grow in your life. We are meant to feel them and then release them. Dealing with your emotions will most certainly alter the way you experience the world in a very positive way.

Remember that you are fully in charge of your physical illness along with your wellness. Begin to deal with each of those emotions that you've locked away deep down within. There are many ways to deal with past emotions and we all release differently. Just a few of the ways that I've found most helpful in releasing these stuck emotions would be through meditation, journaling, and Reiki. If you need help with any of these in order to begin to release and heal, I'm available to help you.

Open Pandora's box today! Release those emotions, and take control of your body, your mind, your health and your entire life once again. Your worth it!

Nicole Lawler will show you different healing modalities for your mind, body, & spirit. At the end of the day, it's all about loving and healing YOU!

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Jim Rohn: The Secret To Self Control (Personal Development)

When You Have It All - Then What?

Acceptance Truth Joy Peace
I was directed to take a break and listen to my heart's desire and sense of what it needs to be free. Without acceptance to break free, I would never know.

It was about the 'me time' to PAUSE and listen quietly to my truth.

Now I am off PAUSE, after attending a spiritual retreat where I focused on opening my heart greater to our divine source. I came home fully alive and inspired and pulled out one of my 'life purpose' cards and then this question came so unexpectedly and without reason. At least I thought (!)
What do I truly desire?
Well, I had to think about this and hard. I felt I had done enough decision making and taking inspired action to raise the bar for myself. In doing so, I could have the freedom to travel and work from anywhere I please. However, it wasn't the answer!

What transpired, my reason for going in to business was to have financial freedom and more choice. Guess What(!) My answer was Nope(!)

This didn't sit well either. I have the penthouse, travel overseas twice a year, cruise the Mediterranean, drive a BMW, earn a great income, and YET felt at a loss to what my answer could be.

What most aspire has appeared into m life. Still, there was a missing piece. May I was missing an internal balance? For instance, is my path of seeking greater joy and happiness it? Maybe? And if so, how do I do this let alone? Explain this? How is happiness communicated the experience is different for everyone one of us?
How do we find happiness?

For anyone who has not experienced the greatest joy happiness -- the lightness and calm, where does one start?

How does one gain that internal trust -- a knowing without doubt or glimmer of disbelief?

Our lives are so ingrained with taking actions securely mapped out trying to manifest what we believe is necessary to live a happy fulfilled life. In essence, what happen we try to control every moment out of safety borne out of our ego.

Questing happiness, the busy-ness is where we become lost. Uncertainty is where we begin to question.

Is this all there is?

There comes a time where the soul needs to shut out the noise and listen to the quiet with acceptance. It is here where the Divine can give us its best guidance to experience joy and calmness. It is a process of letting go of the voices in our heads. To surrender (the vulnerability that most of us avoid) with total acceptance.
Here are three principles to assist in surrendering and quieting the mind.
-Awareness begins with knowing yourself - it requires a deep search into who you are and what you have to offer. It progresses through a deepening sense of appreciation, respect, and gratitude for YOU.

-Acknowledgement that it whatever is shown that it is okay(!) It is always okay without judgement or scrutiny.

-Acceptance of who you are with respect and gratitude - by accepting the anguish and vulnerability - only then can we offer a gift that is both accepted and appreciated.

When this happens all conflict will fall away in every decision, each thought, each activity... where you longer are making decisions from an ego place that keeps us separate. Instead, everything begins with and ends here. Doubt is no longer a part or a choice. One becomes one's truth. You become aligned and your truth is centered. It is here you will find your answers.

This has been difficult for me because the answers are not always the ones I want to hear. They are meant to be heard. With acceptance and surrendering - truth will be heard. And in this there is truth, joy and happiness.

Reeny coaches individuals who are stuck, afraid, unsure, in transition, struggling with self-doubt, frustration, falling back to old patterns

As a Soul Purpose Coach, she uses techniques to awaken your heart and open your intuitive powers guiding individuals to embrace a soul aligned path to life that will bring greater joy, freedom, success, and inner peace.

Her blogs, includes inspirational articles are written for those who are seeking a new view to looking at life.

Her new book 'The Art of Feminine Power' 

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Self Image - The Amazing, Absolute Key To All Personal Growth

A Nonjudgmental Person Is Present-Moment Oriented

If you judge others, the entire chemistry of your body changes dramatically. You may start feeling angry or anxious. Your stomach hurts. Your back aches and you don't understand why. Your vision blurs. Frown lines furrow your brow. You start to feel burdened. You can't stop thinking about what the other person did to bother you. Chances are that this person isn't even aware of the effect he or she is having on you. This happens often when someone borrows money from and you don't know how to say, no. After giving the money to him or her, you can't stop worrying if this person is going to pay you back. Here you can apply the lesson. Don't judge. After all, everything is in the past. You already gave the money away. Let it go and enjoy the now.

The present is all you have. Stop judging. Stop judging others and stop judging yourself. Remember, the Universe is perfect and everything happens for a reason. God is teaching great lessons that if you see them in the events, you will grow spiritually. Relax, enjoy, grow and live always in the present. The past is gone, the future doesn't exist, all you have is the present, enjoy it, don't waste it. Your preoccupation with the future may be just a figment of your imagination. "No life is so hard that you can't make it easier by the way you take it." - Ellen Glasgow

Any time you get stuck in the past, ponder over the wisdom of Helen Keller's words: "When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us." When you live in the present, you never suffer for nothing. You are always happy because you know your mission here is to be happy and enjoy every single second of your life. You find God in every breath you take, in the clean smell after a summer rain, in the Good Samaritan who stopped to help change your flat tire. God is everywhere. Never ask, where is God? Be more objective and ask, where is he not?

You will discover that even those who offend you are angels of God. They are messengers of God to teach you to live a better life. You will discover that problems are illusions. Illusions your ego creates to take advantage of your lower levels of energy, that is to say, your lower levels of awareness. God is in you, God is you. God is everywhere. When you feel alone or separated from him, this is by your choice. You have chosen to behave in a way that differs from God's plans for you. But that's OK. Don't feel guilty. Everything is part of the perfect orchestration of the Universe. And when you finally understand the lessons, your only choice or reaction will be to enjoy life fully.

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Jim Rohn: THE LION ATTITUDE (PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT)

How Not to Take Yourself So Seriously: 5 Practices

Do not take life too seriously. You will never get out of it alive.

-- Elbert Hubbard

Last week I was offered another lesson at the indoor pool where I swim. Sunday, it seems, has become everyone's favorite day. The pool was packed. Lane designations are important when it's crowded, and two lanes are reserved for slower, leisurely swimmers--like me.

So, I was in the first leisure lane with two other swimmers, while another very slow swimmer was in the second lane. Things were flowing well until three guys got into the second leisure lane with the slower swimmer. They were much faster and kept running into him--literally.

I got upset and finally spoke to the guys, who had gathered at the end of the pool as I was getting out. I was fairly centered, friendly, curious, and assertive. I asked if this was a new pool for them (no, they'd come a few times), and if they knew that some lanes were reserved for slower swimmers (yes, they knew that). Then, as if in reply to my silence, they said, "We're slow!" I laughed and said they seemed pretty fast to me. At the same moment, they noticed a swimmer leaving the medium lane and decided to move over.

I felt okay about the interaction. Glad that I'd had the courage of my convictions, and also wishing I'd been maybe a little more centered. I like to practice centering by thinking in percentages. And I was maybe 60-70% in that moment. If I'd been 100%, instead of laughing, I might have listened more, and then explained that in my experience at this pool, they were fast swimmers for that lane.

Rule #6

Benjamin Zander, conductor of the Boston Philharmonic, author and motivational speaker, writes about creating a life that works, and the influence we have in helping others to do the same. One of his lessons and best stories revolves around what he calls "Rule #6", which is:

Don't take yourself so g--damn seriously.

5 Practices

I'm pretty familiar with this mental habit of taking myself too seriously, and have five practices that help me catch myself. They fall into two categories:

Committed Practices

1) I meditate daily. A brief time to sit quietly and do nothing each day is restorative over the long term.

2) I exercise. Personally, I enjoy swimming and walking, and do one or both every day.

Rituals and Spontaneous Practices

3) I catch myself. I notice the mental or physical tension and relax. Try it now: lower your shoulders, lengthen your spine, and feel the weight of gravity rooting you to the earth's surface.

4) I breathe and smile at myself. You can do this anytime: exhale and focus on your breathing. Notice how it moves in and out of your body. Count breaths and smile internally. You'll begin to get your perspective back.

5) I do something for me. Have a cup of tea. Take a walk. Read a book. Move. Dance. Sing. Go out into the garden. Look out the window. Do what works for you.

So maybe I could have chosen one of those practices last Sunday at the pool. I could have noticed myself winding up, smiled and relaxed. I could have minded my own business instead of designating myself the "lane police." That's what lifeguards are for.

Did I really need to speak? Was I taking myself too seriously? I'm still not sure. It was a ki moment, and I'm still learning from it. Maybe next time (there will be a next time), I'll smile at myself, relax, take a deep breath, and--like Dory says--"just keep swimming."

What practices help you to stop taking yourself too seriously?

About the Author: Judy Ringer is the author of two books, Turn Enemies into Allies: The Art of Peace in the Workplace and Unlikely Teachers: Finding the Hidden Gifts in Daily Conflict

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How Has The Idea Of The Inner Child Been Misunderstood In Spiritual Circles

We hear so much about the Inner Child in spiritual circles. At the same time, there is also a lot of confusion about what the inner child is all about. Some think the inner child is the wise one within our consciousness, some think it is our soul or spiritual self.

But the inner child is not any of that. It is, in fact, an aspect of our psychological self and it can also represent the archetype of the innocent one.

If we see the world through the eyes of the inner child, we will see the world through the lens of innocence, with childlike wonder.

Wouldn't you agree that sometimes it is so important to be able to view the world with childlike wonder? This gives us an opportunity to see the world and other people without any judgement. And especially so during this Christmas season?

When we see the world through the eyes of the inner child we often see the good sides. We see the good aspects because a child is very innocent and has no judgement.

The problem with that is if we do not have the wisdom, then we will be able to discern what is negative and positive, and we will only see things from a too positive viewpoint without being in touch with reality We may endanger ourselves, by not being able to see the negative intentions of people, or be blind even to our own false parts of self. In this sense, our imbalanced inner child can lead us astray.

Now, you can say that there are negative and positive aspects of the inner child. On one hand we are able to see the good perspective and we are able to see the world with childlike wonder but on the other hand, we can be too naïve.

So, to work with the inner child, we need to understand that for the inner child within our own psyche to work to our advantage we must always integrate the wise archetype. The wise one archetype must work alongside the inner child archetype in order to keep us in balance.

Now there is this belief within new age/spiritual circles where people think that the inner child is one's soul and that we should always be listening to the inner child because it is our intuitive promptings. The problem with this is that if one doesn't understand the workings of the inner child or think this aspect of self is filled with wisdom - what happens if your inner child is actually a spoilt brat? Then by listening to the promptings of your spoilt brat, you could very well be led astray!

So the question now is: how to identify and understand the inner child? This is something that I learned from my mentor a long time ago - there is a process called Inner Child Dialoguing. The dialogue process is a very simple one.

You are simply having an imaginary conversation with a child on paper (or on your computer). Find some quiet time to do this. This conversation is between you and the inner child. For example, if I were to have this conversation with my inner child, I would allow this conversation to be a free-flowing one, without any censorship, simply allowing the dialogue to flow.

Shamala: Hello! This is Shamala, and I would like to invite my inner child to have a conversation with me. How are you doing today my dear inner child?
Inner child: Oh I'm having a horrible day, you are such a bad person, you are such a bad parent to me, you did not pay attention to me, you did not give me rest yesterday, you work so hard.

The above conversation shows me what I need to pay attention to. Through these conversations, you will get an idea which inner child is speaking to you, it could be the spoilt brat one day, the weak one another day. Or it could be is a fearful one.

The aim is to keep the inner child balanced, happy and loved. The adult inner voice must parent the inner child effectively to keep her balanced. She must feel loved, secured and at the same time, the adult must also parent her, as you would a real child. To add to this, there is also the voice of the inner parent which can also be critical or weak. So a dialogue process can also be set up to find out how your inner parent works!

These dialogue processes are essentially investigative in nature. You want to know exactly what is going on inside you. So maybe you are going through some relationship challenges and you want to know exactly what the inner child is experiencing or what the inner parent is thinking. This is really quite an effective journaling process.

I personally coach my clients on this process and I also do have a few slots for email coaching on how to journal using investigative dialoguing process. Drop me an email for more information.

Despite what people believe, or don't want to believe for that matter, we all have split personalities and they all surface at different times. So you might have noticed this about yourself - If you were to go home, to your family home during the festive season, you will find that you function and operate quite differently as you would in the office or with your friends. These are different aspects of us would surface in different situations and different circumstances.

Now if we don't know how all of these personalities are behaving then how are we going to know ourselves? Without knowing there is no way to grow. Self-awareness is key and from awareness, you will know what kind of actions to take in order for you to evolve and in order for you to take the next step of your development.

Without a proper structure, it is harder to grow. Too many spiritual people say 'all I need to do is just meditate and I will grow'. No, that's not true. You need to really understand yourself and the only way you can understand yourself is through self-reflection.

Now I hope that this information I have shared with you is going to serve you well in your further development. I share this article so that you do not make the mistake that many on the path of personal development are making. Namaste!

My clients call me the chiropractor for the soul because it is what I do best. I align my clients with their body, mind and soul. The end game - to live more purposeful lives. I have a deep love for psychology, all things spiritual and non-religious.  Shamala Tan

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Challenges of Walking Alone

Possibilities and Despair

With so much going on around us it is difficult to stop. We must keep up the pace to stay in front. These challenges our dealt with the consistent voice of our ego to press on.

As such, we consistently seek to keep up with the Jones', comparing ourselves to what is outside of us. And at these moments in time we often experience frustration, exhaustion and hopelessness. We just can't get past go(!)

Certainly, at one time or another we have these experience. One step forward and one step back. Trudging through life with days of exhilaration and then despair. Moving through these challenges of each day where on day we feel elated to downright miserable.

There is always light inside these darker days. Staying in the dark is often easier - less challenging - than acceptance. Even in those lost moments, there is still hope. There are still possibilities and chances to access answers to those pressing questions.

Where will we feel motivation to move on and experience the enthusiasm once again?

Perhaps in this greatest pain - there is no reason and to only image the lack of what you cannot see.

Challenges We Face

Confidence and assertion is part of this and can help us to improve. However, some people are getting too far into the old ways of dealing with challenges and end up being arrogant pushing with tactics that do not serve.

Getting stuff off our chests lighten the heaviness of troubles. But, even if we have lost the initiative during the path to success, do not feel that you have already lost all hope.

Walking Alone

Awakening to inner wisdom has been described as a feast, an encounter with a teacher, opening up a new gate into a new world meeting the direct sight of your true self.

We are not here just to live an ordinary life, pay bills and then leave this great planet. We are here to experience a higher purpose, to find our inner wisdom. Liberation is where we can grow and learn. to create the good things around us and to gather knowledge and experience life. And at the same time experience and learn from the mis-takes or failures in life.

You may lose one battle, but you can still win the war. With an attitude of hope, sooner or later, you will get back on the saddle and be the person that you have always wanted to be.

Remember you are not walking your path alone.

Take time to reflect and know yourself; to figure it out what you really want, what makes you happy and fulfilled, and what calms you down at the end of the day.

Ask the questions, quite the mind and listen to the answers.

Reeny coaches individuals who are stuck, afraid, unsure, in transition, struggling with self-doubt, frustration, falling back to old patterns

As a Soul Purpose Coach, connecting to inner wisdom to awaken your heart and open your intuitive powers she guides individuals to embrace a soul aligned path to life that will bring greater joy, freedom, success, and inner peace.

Her blogs, includes inspirational articles are written for those who are seeking a new view to looking at life.

Her new book 'The Art of Feminine Power' 

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